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I write this based on my thoughts of a post from one of my friends.  Angela mentioned that one of her clients gave her major accolades for being there for her during a critical time.  But to Angela, she was just doing her job.  She didn’t know that she served as a lifeline of support for this client. When I thought about this, I realized Angela did several things. She made herself available, which is one of...

No one likes to see their child upset. But when children never feel the pain as a result of their choices, they are set up to repeat this cycle.  The choices become greater and the child never learns the lesson.   I often say in sessions, “If don’t allow them to feel, you may be dealing with a 30 year old on your sofa that you are responsible for.” Immediately, the families say, “No, we don’t want...

Words matter. They help us define who we are, whether they come from inside ourselves or from the people around us. Maybe you were told that you have to be someone different, or that you have to act or dress a particular way.  Maybe you don’t have the social skills that your friends have and you feel as though you are lacking. Here is the truth: there is absolutely nothing wrong with you. Everyone experiences negative thoughts...

Lately I am struck by the numbers of grandparents who are raising grandchildren. Sometimes it seems as if an entire generation has somehow pushed their responsibilities onto our elders. Whether they are raising grandchildren due to drug abuse, death, or some other tragedy, one thing is clear to me – grandparents need our help and support as they take up the challenge of raising children. Legal issues are at the top of the list. While in many...

The terms “stress” and “anxiety” are very common because we all face stressful events in our day to day life. The terms “stress” and “anxiety” are often used interchangeably, yet they have very different definitions. Stress can be defined as what one feels when under too much pressure. A person can report feeling stressed when faced with multiple competing demands such as work demands, academic demands, relationship conflicts, and internally generated expectations for self. Some of...

Ask yourself, how many children do you know who are being raised by grandparents because their parents have succumbed to substance abuse? How many of your friends or relatives struggle with the disease of addiction? How many people do you know who have had someone close to them die from drug use? When you start answering these questions, substance abuse becomes anything but glamorous....

Do you really want the truth? I am sick and tired of the stress and anxiety in our children. Many of them don't have basic coping skills. And many more have isolated themselves behind cell phone screens and overprotective adults. This, I believe, is a contributing factor to the rise of depression and suicide rates among today's youth. Playing outside is a thing of the past, and that's a shame. When children are tasked with entertaining...